The Patterns Running Your Team (And How to Change Them)

This week, the three of us partners have been together in Ibiza, sitting around a table, talking, creating, and spending the kind of time together that the pace of running a business rarely leaves room for. It’s been really beautiful, and one of the things we’ve been finishing off is something we’ve been building for the past six months that we’re genuinely proud of.

Here’s the thing about coaching, leadership development, and self-development: it’s brilliant, and we believe in it completely, but it takes time and it takes investment. And we know that for a lot of the people we want to reach, that’s the barrier. So we asked ourselves what it would look like to offer something you could use right now, not after a six-month programme, but today. Something that takes ten minutes and gives you genuine awareness of what’s keeping you stuck and, more importantly, how to get out of it.

We’ve called the patterns the inertia loop and the power loop, and we’ve brought them together into something called Pattern Power™. Our hope is that you use it to understand yourself a little better, to see how your patterns affect the people around you, and to start shifting the culture of your team towards something that actually works.

You know what great leadership looks like.
You’ve invested in development, built strong strategies, and hired talented people. And yet, when times get hard, the same problems keep coming back. That high performer who’s brilliant in normal conditions becomes difficult under pressure. The team that looks great on paper struggles to deliver consistently. The same dynamics keep surfacing, meeting after meeting, quarter after quarter, and you can’t quite put your finger on why.

The answer, almost always, is patterns.

Every leader has them because that’s how human brains work. Patterns save us time and energy, they’re efficient, but they’re also the thing that makes us react in the same way under stress, over and over again, whether that reaction is serving us or not. And individual patterns don’t stay individual for long. When one person defaults to control under pressure, others learn to wait for direction. When someone avoids conflict, the whole team avoids accountability.

Your patterns become team behaviours, and team behaviours shape organisational culture, and organisational culture shapes your results.

This is why we created Pattern Power™. Because your team’s patterns at individual and collective levels are quite literally the ceiling of your organisational performance.

The Yes That Costs You

It’s 4pm on a Thursday, and you’re already behind on the strategy paper due tomorrow. Your calendar is back-to-back until 6, and your manager pings you asking for slides for Monday’s client meeting, nothing major. You feel it immediately: that tightness in your chest and the discomfort at the thought of saying no.

So you say yes. Of course you do. And by Monday, you’ve delivered the slides after staying up late and cutting corners on your own work, feeling quietly resentful the whole time. And when the next request comes, you’ll say yes again because the pattern is already set. And you feel stuck and stretched thin and quietly frustrated with yourself, without quite understanding why.

The Idea That Disappears

You’re in a leadership meeting, and you share an idea you’ve been thinking about for weeks, something that could genuinely shift how the team operates… silence.

Then someone picks up a different thread, and the conversation moves on. No acknowledgement, nothing. The insecurity kicks in immediately. Was it stupid? Do they not rate you?

You take it personally, and here’s where the pattern really kicks in: next meeting, when someone else shares an idea, you’re barely listening because you’re already thinking about how to make sure you’re the one being heard this time. You interrupt, you take up more space, and it doesn’t feel good. And the cycle continues.

The Rage That Surprises You

Someone’s late to the meeting again, third time this month. Or you’re drowning in work, and someone drops another task on your desk like it’s nothing. And the anger hits fast, too fast, and you snap.

You say something about respect and professionalism and people not pulling their weight, and then almost immediately the guilt arrives: why did I react like that?

So you shut down and stop asking for help and start doing everything yourself because at least then no one can let you down. But the anger is still there, waiting. And it’ll be back next time.

What Pattern Power™ Actually Does

These aren’t character flaws. They’re patterns. And patterns can be seen and changed once you know what you’re looking at.

Pattern Power™ helps you identify the behaviours that are making your culture less effective than it could be and stopping your team from being truly high-performing, whether that’s something in you, something in one person on your team, or, most likely, a combination of all of you together.

It reveals your limiting behaviours, the emotion that comes with them, and the origin of where they started, so that you can see what we call your inertia loop.

And once you’ve identified that, we use the LOOP Method to help you create new, more conscious patterns and genuinely transform how you and your team show up together. When we’re reactive and stressed, we tend to trigger those around us, so the behaviour becomes mirrored and spreads through a team fast. By changing your behaviour at the core, that ripple goes the other way.

The pattern may start with you, and it can also end with you.

You don’t need months of coaching or a big budget or a week away to begin, you just need ten minutes and a willingness to look honestly at what you’re doing and why. And if you do want to go deeper, we have a full-day workshop where you can bring your whole team through their inertia loops together, building self-awareness, trust, and a shared understanding of the culture you’re collectively creating.

Pattern Power™ is built on years of research and thousands of client hours, and we built it because we genuinely believe it’s one of the most straightforward, practical things a leader can do to start making real change.

We all react, it’s part of being human, and there is always a way through.

Lauren x